Living with Whimsy

Musings from a happy wife, mother of two, and breast cancer fighter.

Friday, June 18, 2010

I'm a Role Model?!

I hadn't thought much about being a role model before having a daughter.  The realization that I am her primary model of what a woman should be is mildly terrifying.  I've had to watch what I say like never before.  I'm not talking about cursing - the worst I ever say is "crap!"  (Though I've had to cut that out, too - not something I want to hear coming from my 2 year old's cute mouth!)  I'm talking about the way I talk about myself.  Gone are the days of constantly moaning to Jamie that I feel chubby with the seemingly-permanent post-baby weight stuck on my body.  Gone are the days of vocalizing my wishes that some part of me was different/thinner/prettier.  I may still feel those things, but I've had to learn to be more content with myself so that she doesn't get the wrong idea.  I don't want Gisèle growing up thinking that she needs to be constantly aware of what pants size she's trying on, and thinking that there's something wrong with her body.  I don't want her looking at herself and trying to find flaws.  That time will come soon enough - as soon as her friends start introducing those words - "fat," "chubby," "ugly," - into her vocabulary.  I just don't want it to come from me.

There's a lot of responsibility that comes with being a mother to a daughter.  I want her to know from the start how beautiful, smart, funny, sweet, and lovable she is.




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Blogger Mindy said...

I know what you mean. It does feel overwhelming at times, and I really wonder if God saved sending our family a girl until now, because He knew I'd need to get some things sorted out first!

June 18, 2010 at 6:06 PM  
Anonymous Brandi said...

awesome post, trish :) well said! and i LOVE that picture of her!!

June 18, 2010 at 7:49 PM  
Anonymous Andrea said...

If she ever questions herself, just show her that picture :) Great post - makes me think about myself, too...

June 18, 2010 at 8:45 PM  
Anonymous Grandma said...

I think you are and will continue to be a great role model. It is an awesome responsibility, but what a privilege! That is a really awesome picture!

June 19, 2010 at 12:04 AM  
Blogger Lizzie Collum said...

Well said! I have had to work extra hard at the way I think of exercising. I am exercising to be "healthy" now instead of "skinny." We talk about more how it makes our hearts healthy and is good for us.

June 19, 2010 at 1:38 PM  
Blogger Lindsay Sullivan said...

Well said! I can't say that I have ever really thought about that, except of course for using the word "crap"! I totally agree with you though.

June 20, 2010 at 9:23 PM  

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